When 36-year-old Theresa Rose offered to organize a fantasy threesome with another woman for her husband’s birthday, he thought he was the luckiest guy in the world. Not only did she go through with the plan – and the couple had sex together with another woman – things could not have been more fun for the man. However, it came as quite a shock a few weeks later when Rose filed for divorce because the threesome made her realize something very important about the person she was always meant to be – Rose learned that she was actually a lesbian trapped in a heterosexual marriage.

The threesome occurred between Rose, her husband, and the other woman in 2020. Once she was able to make love to another woman, she realized that she had always been attracted to women but just never acted upon the latent urge.

In a matter of days, Rose decided it was time to call it quits on her marriage, so she filed for divorce from her husband.

“Experiencing that intimate interaction with a woman for the first time, the physical and emotional depth was [so intense],” Rose, from Portland, Oregon, told the New York Post during a recent interview.

Three weeks after she quit her marriage, Rose began dating another woman named Jacqui Mettle. They’ve been together in a loving relationship ever since.

“I was like, ‘Oh my God, this is what’s been missing.’ After being with that woman, I said to myself, ‘This is why I’ve been so unhappy in my marriage.’ My relationship with my husband, emotionally, felt so shallow and lonely compared to my connection with the woman.”

However, Rose had to overcome the anti-LGBTQ conditioning she learned from her childhood in a very Catholic family. While she was being raised, she was taught that “all gays go to Hell.” She denied her true feelings toward women until she organized the threesome with her husband and could no longer deny the truth that was right in front of her.

When Rose revealed the truth to her husband, he “got really nasty” and told her “very conservative” parents that Rose was a lesbian. People in their Bible study group also learned the truth, and before long, Rose found herself ousted from the life she had grown to love. As a mother of two children, Rose had a lot of responsibilities.

The pain from rejection was so intense for Rose that she reported that she was contemplating suicide at times.

However, Rose’s life was turned back onto a good path in a matter of weeks when she met Jacqui Mettle. They have been together for more than a year already and recently moved from California to Oregon, where they have a house and plans to raise Rose’s two sons – ages six and eight – together.

Rose has been speaking publicly about her lesbian romance adventure on her TikTok account, @Raising2Activists, which has gained more than 100,000 followers.

“It feels so free to finally live authentically,” she said.

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